February 2nd, 2012

A girl can dream… can’t she?

I have fielded questions about my “12 step program” that I have for guys.  I think that you need to have standards.  More importantly you need to know what your standards are and be able to clearly articulate themYou won’t ever get what you want if you don’t know what it is.

So, back to my program.  The 12 steps are individualized to each person.  Meaning my last ex had a different set of steps than the one before him.  The steps, in essence are things that he needs to do in order to have a successful relationship with me.  I also have a set of steps for myself… in an effort to meet halfway on things.

I can’t then list the specific steps but I can however give a generalization of them.  I do this, one because someone asked me to and two because I think everyone should think about these things.  What are your deal breakers?  You need to know them going in so no one’s time is wasted & no one gets hurt.

  1. Belief in GOD & Karma (golden rule/respect)
  2. Educated
  3. Creative
  4. Strong (physically, mentally, emotionally, & spiritually)
  5. Hugger/Cuddler
  6. Good Communicator & Honest
  7. Goal Oriented & Driven - Well focused
  8. Compassionate & Patient
  9. Flexibility - Open (in life & thoughts)
  10. Sexually knowledgeable
  11. Independent & Responsible
  12. Decisive

Now of course there is a spectrum for all things.  I agree that there is no perfect person.  That is why I have the steps.  I allow for someone to grow with me in the relationship.  We may not be perfect for each other when we get together but if we are close we can get there through work.  My future mate just needs to be on the spectrum of those 12 things in order to have a snowballs chance in hell.

I have never had a guy be anymore than 50% through the steps… which I gather is why I am single.  I am hopeful though.  My soulmate is out there… somewhere…

But if I could build the perfect guy…

Can he have a body like Lenny Kravitz?  Cause that man… woo lordy… with a smooth nicely shaped chest…

Can he be at least six feet tall?  Cause sometimes I like to wear heels…

Can he have no addiction except being addicted to me?  Cause I don’t like competition…

Can he be well read & highly educated?  Cause life experience & work experience count as education as well…

Can he know how to cook but also like to do clean up when I cook?  Cause I hate doing dishes…

Can his words match his actions?  Cause I am tired of the mixed signals crap…

Can he be a motivator?  Cause a girl needs some motivation some times…

I’d build the perfect girl… but I don’t know about all that… smh…